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Overcoming Loneliness & Depression

Overcoming Loneliness & Depression do you feel hate, anger, fear, loss, lonely, loneliness or depression? Do you feel rejected, a failure or no-one cares? I can assure you this is NOT the real you. In fact, loneliness or pain taken positively is a beautiful door-way of mental, spiritual and emotional empowerment.

Alone, Lonely or Loneliness?

Alone, lonely or loneliness sounds very similar but may not be or mean the same thing. Most people at some point in their life will encounter short or long periods of being alone, lonely or even loneliness. This is regardless of age. Do you remember the first time you ever felt alone, lonely or loneliness? I do. I remember as a child my father would wake us upĀ  early in the morning and takes us to another house…I hated it. I guess I was around 3-4 years old, I just remember trauma of two wild cats scratching me to pieces and siblings and adults shouting: ‘They won’t hurt you‘ yet what I really needed at that time was my parents or someone to pick me up in their arms and save me from these roaming wild cats I had to spend all day being tormented. This went on for a long-time in my mind.

It is funny how some experiences of world affect us within. Even to this day as an adult I would never date a woman who has a cat or allow a cat in the same room as me. I am actually now allergic to cats, I get uncomfortable, restless and my allergies go haywire around a cat or cats. So what has this to do with loneliness? Well, perhaps loneliness has a correlation with trauma, loss, abandonment, being endangered, harmed, violated, rejected or feeling left alone? I certainly felt all of the above daily at an early age that obviously has scarred me even as an adult. I later found out my parents had separated [they later rekindled and have been married 60 + years] my single-parent Father for a while was dropping us off to rush off to work and collect us later. The funny thing is I do not remember anything else, just the loneliness, trauma and fear of those cats.

What are you feeling alone, lonely or loneliness about? Do you realize alone, lonely or loneliness often results from something happening in our lives? It maybe a traumatic or broken friendship, relationship, marriage or too many job applications saying ‘SORRY’ or you give so much of yourself to others and they often take you for granted. Most people are never popular forever. We all need like-minded, genuine, positive people and relationships to survive this world. So are you alone, lonely or experiencing loneliness? Some may reply all three and more. If so, you may be depressed. You feel most of the above and you have come to the end of your motivation to keep trusting, loving or even pretending to others or yourself how you really feel within. Sometimes it is energizing and good to say NO!

How to Overcome Feeling Alone, Lonely or Loneliness

The first place to start is WITHIN. Most people of all ages struggle or forget to love themselves. It is NOT your fault! Not many parents, schools, colleges or universities teach how to embrace or love yourself. In fact, university especially the final year is so competitive, challenging and cut-throat it secretly leaves most students feeling alone, lonely and loneliness. You cannot wait to finish get your grade, graduate and wave farewell. The world of work, business, career and job hunting is no different, it is reported most people feel stressed-out at work. The world is a very competitive, challenging and cut-throat environment which puts pressure on parenting, families and marriage. So how do we improve or overcome most of the worlds negatives and embrace the positives of living in such a competitive, challenging, cut-throat and stressful world?

Again it all begins within. Try, sitting down in silence and solitude and just being still of mind, soul and spirit. Refuse to think anything negative or harmful within. This is not easy as thoughts can be also negative so one has to eliminate them like harmful, ugly weeds in your garden pluck them out immediately. This is your self-talk arena! This is your chance to address your self-talk and begin with a blank canvas. Take control! You have the power to tell your mind what to think, believe and your subconscious mind to only regurgitate. This takes time..so be loving and patient with yourself. This is your mental gymnasium where for an hour each day preferably in the morning or at night you lovingly, positively and creatively work out within.

This is a long-road of self-actualization and discovery. It is like fitness requires a life coach or trainer. But, no-one knows you better than yourself and no-one can make your mind think or believe anything but you. Sure, an experienced or professional person can coach you within but ultimately you have to desire to love, embrace and think positively within.

In conclusion, I have spent over 15 years reading, researching and walking through what works within. I can honestly say nothing is better or higher than the Creator who created us all. This is non-denominational and non-religious this is just genuinely the truth. The highest level of life coaching is when God or the Creator leads your spirit, mind and soul daily. This is NOT fiction this is truth. This is what we read in the Bible with ELI taught from a child and if God created us all then surely God has ears, eyes and a mouth and HE can speak for himself. My advice to anyone is start with baby-steps and sit down and write what you desire to do, believe and think then connect and pray this daily until it becomes a reality by faith.

In His Service,

CyberRev.